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research proposal

Communication Act: First Year College students on how they overcome cognitive dissonance when chose the university they would enter and the course they would take.

Communication Theory: Cognitive Dissonance Theory.



*sir pwede ko rin toh gamitin sa ah if i approve mo toh? :)

WHAT'S THE MEANING OF THIS!?

I was taught in my COMA101 class that communication is a continuing systematic process that uses symbols which has meanings. So every time we talk with people, different symbols are transmitted and different meanings are created.

Symbolic Interactionism was developed by George Herbert Mead. His was fascinated how humans use symbols and he wanted to know more. Symbolic Interactionism has talked about its core concepts, namely:

Meaning. Every action has it’s intention and every word has it’s meaning. Meanings however we’re no “in born”. It is develop as we interact and mingle with the people around us. In example, the object chair. You’d never know that’s a chair if your parents didn’t tell you that. You’d hear them say, “SIT ON THE CHAIR”. Then as you grow old, the one you’re sitting on is a chair. Not a table. But if no one taught that is chair, you might call it Television or whatever you prefer to call i

Language. I can still remember the first time I entered Prep-School. I was so excited! I had new shoes, bag, uniform, school supplies and new things to learn. As the schooldays passed by, I learned new words. I EVEN LEARNED BAD ONES. I also learned that an apple is an apple and red is to color red. As I interact with them, doors of knowledge start to open and waiting to be explored.

Minding. Our mind is the control center of our body. It’s where all the little switches and people work to make our body function. The mind also interprets everything we see, touch, smell, taste and hear. We interpret what we is transmitted to us.

This theory also talked about the “The Self”; the me and I. as I can remember the “I” is how you see yourself. You’re characteristic and so on. The “me”, on the other hand, is how the others see you. We figure this things out when we interact with the society and people we’re in.

HELLO STRANGER

this was a one time shot.
a one time deal.
it's like DO or DIE.
and I'm too young to die...
AND so, i did it.

HELLO STRANGER.

DATE: DECEMBER 29, 2008
TIME: 10:31 am
WHERE: YM! MINDANAO CHAT ROOM
WHO: adamgarrido

and the conversation went...

adamgarrido (10:31:39 AM): hi :)
shobe_barbie (10:31:43 AM): hi
adamgarrido (10:31:56 AM): taga asa ka?
adamgarrido (10:31:59 AM): :)
shobe_barbie (10:32:10 AM): davao
adamgarrido (10:32:41 AM): wow
adamgarrido (10:32:43 AM): nice
adamgarrido (10:32:45 AM): :)
adamgarrido (10:32:52 AM): asl? ok lang?
shobe_barbie (10:32:53 AM): ikaw
shobe_barbie (10:32:59 AM): 16/ f/ davao
shobe_barbie (10:33:01 AM): iakw?
shobe_barbie (10:33:03 AM): )ikaw
adamgarrido (10:33:11 AM): iligan.. pero manila ko ga school
shobe_barbie (10:33:15 AM): oooh
shobe_barbie (10:33:19 AM): asa?
adamgarrido (10:33:21 AM): 18/m/ iligan :)
adamgarrido (10:33:26 AM): CSB
adamgarrido (10:33:31 AM): DLS-CSB
shobe_barbie (10:33:33 AM): ooooh
shobe_barbie (10:33:34 AM): nice
adamgarrido (10:33:38 AM): kaw asa ka ga school?
shobe_barbie (10:33:54 AM): UP min
shobe_barbie (10:34:01 AM): unsa imu course?
adamgarrido (10:34:05 AM): nice..:)
adamgarrido (10:34:16 AM): bs-hrim..kaw?
shobe_barbie (10:34:20 AM): ooh
adamgarrido (10:34:24 AM): major in culinary arts :)
shobe_barbie (10:34:28 AM): ba-communication arts
shobe_barbie (10:34:32 AM): soo second year nka?
shobe_barbie (10:34:34 AM): tma ba?
adamgarrido (10:34:45 AM): ya...galing
adamgarrido (10:34:50 AM): kaw first year?
adamgarrido (10:34:52 AM): :)
shobe_barbie (10:35:14 AM): hahaahaa
shobe_barbie (10:35:17 AM): yes
shobe_barbie (10:35:21 AM): lingw an hrm?
shobe_barbie (10:35:30 AM): HRIM pla
shobe_barbie (10:35:31 AM): hahah
shobe_barbie (10:35:57 AM): :D
adamgarrido (10:36:10 AM): ya
adamgarrido (10:36:12 AM): sige mi luto
adamgarrido (10:36:15 AM): :)
shobe_barbie (10:36:17 AM): hahaahaa
shobe_barbie (10:36:22 AM): lami.a sa life oie!
adamgarrido (10:36:29 AM): haha:))
adamgarrido (10:36:40 AM): slight :)
shobe_barbie (10:37:05 AM): napadpad lagi sa chatroom ai
shobe_barbie (10:37:12 AM): wala ka lngaw nooh?
adamgarrido (10:37:14 AM): naa kay FS? patan.awa ko bi kung ok lnag sa imo
adamgarrido (10:37:18 AM): uu
adamgarrido (10:37:20 AM): haha
shobe_barbie (10:37:22 AM): imu sa
adamgarrido (10:37:27 AM): boring kaayo diri ui
shobe_barbie (10:37:35 AM): haah
adamgarrido (10:37:36 AM): ladies first :)
shobe_barbie (10:37:38 AM): dri pud
shobe_barbie (10:37:46 AM): maka.bagong babae ako!
shobe_barbie (10:37:49 AM): ikaw sa!
adamgarrido (10:38:09 AM): adamgarrido@yahoo.com
adamgarrido (10:38:12 AM): kaw?
adamgarrido (10:38:50 AM): aw gitanaw pa man jud
shobe_barbie (10:38:56 AM): xempre
shobe_barbie (10:39:00 AM): just want to make xur
adamgarrido (10:39:06 AM): LOL
shobe_barbie (10:39:10 AM): ivacaballero@yahoo.com
shobe_barbie (10:39:15 AM): sige..
shobe_barbie (10:39:24 AM): kana huh
adamgarrido (10:39:28 AM): make sure na unsa?
shobe_barbie (10:39:40 AM): na dli ka isa sa mga gago na naka.istrya
shobe_barbie (10:39:49 AM): no harm man diay ka
shobe_barbie (10:39:50 AM): haahaa
adamgarrido (10:40:01 AM): :))
adamgarrido (10:40:02 AM): thanks:P
shobe_barbie (10:40:19 AM): gi.add na tak
shobe_barbie (10:40:21 AM): hahahaa
adamgarrido (10:40:32 AM): thanks :P
shobe_barbie (10:40:41 AM): no biggie
adamgarrido (10:41:02 AM): :P
shobe_barbie (10:41:07 AM): wait lng.
adamgarrido (10:41:19 AM): ok ok...:)
shobe_barbie (10:41:21 AM): nanu diay ka napadpad sa CSB?
shobe_barbie (10:41:34 AM): gnhn dyud ka ana na skul?
adamgarrido (10:41:39 AM): Lasalista na ko since elementary :P
shobe_barbie (10:41:52 AM): oooh
shobe_barbie (10:41:55 AM): bantugra
shobe_barbie (10:42:04 AM): super green ka pla
adamgarrido (10:42:09 AM): LOL
adamgarrido (10:42:12 AM): not that green
adamgarrido (10:42:16 AM): :))
shobe_barbie (10:42:17 AM): hahahaha
shobe_barbie (10:42:28 AM): double meaning mn ka oie!
adamgarrido (10:42:49 AM): huh? sorry didnt mean to offend you
shobe_barbie (10:42:59 AM): none taken
shobe_barbie (10:43:02 AM): pramis
adamgarrido (10:43:06 AM): :)
shobe_barbie (10:43:19 AM): may gani na padpad ka sa chatroom
shobe_barbie (10:43:28 AM): mga buang man ang mga tao oie
adamgarrido (10:43:30 AM): y man?
shobe_barbie (10:43:42 AM): kasi mga..
shobe_barbie (10:43:43 AM): ummm
shobe_barbie (10:43:47 AM): bsta
adamgarrido (10:43:47 AM): haha...la man gud ko mabuhat :P
adamgarrido (10:43:55 AM): aw...puro bastos?
shobe_barbie (10:44:07 AM): ang ga pm sa ako
shobe_barbie (10:44:16 AM): bsta oie
shobe_barbie (10:44:21 AM): naa pa dyu mangaway
shobe_barbie (10:44:22 AM): hahaa
adamgarrido (10:44:32 AM): really?
adamgarrido (10:44:38 AM): unsa na away? :)
adamgarrido (10:44:41 AM): curious me:))
shobe_barbie (10:44:44 AM): hahahaah
shobe_barbie (10:45:26 AM): away in a sense na if dili ka makipag.c2c kai mag ingong sila na pangit ka. bayot. stuff like that
shobe_barbie (10:45:27 AM): hahahaa
adamgarrido (10:45:42 AM): ah...sama namn
shobe_barbie (10:45:54 AM): yes
shobe_barbie (10:46:11 AM): actually may pakay tlga ako sa chatroom neunj
shobe_barbie (10:46:12 AM): hhahahaahah
adamgarrido (10:46:29 AM): and dwhats that?
adamgarrido (10:46:34 AM): whats*
shobe_barbie (10:46:37 AM): secret
shobe_barbie (10:46:42 AM): can't tell it
shobe_barbie (10:46:49 AM): tell me bout yourself naman
shobe_barbie (10:46:56 AM): kanina pa ako sige kwentoooo
shobe_barbie (10:46:57 AM): hahahaa
adamgarrido (10:47:39 AM): aw
adamgarrido (10:47:41 AM): kaw sa :))
shobe_barbie (10:47:54 AM): aaah
shobe_barbie (10:47:59 AM): boring man ang buhay ko
shobe_barbie (10:48:08 AM): wala maxdooo drama
adamgarrido (10:48:36 AM): :))
shobe_barbie (10:48:45 AM): tska! ako una nag.ask no!
adamgarrido (10:49:07 AM): ask what?
shobe_barbie (10:49:26 AM): about sa life mo ba
shobe_barbie (10:49:27 AM): hahahaa
shobe_barbie (10:49:33 AM): mag.chika kana
shobe_barbie (10:49:36 AM): DALI

and that's how it ended.
he never IM'd me again nor added me in his FS.
he was the first on I met in that room.
other were just plain nasty, so I didn't bother entertaining them.
i even had a lesboo chatmate.
but i choose adamgarrido because he presented himself as a man with a good head on his shoulders! :D

ASL PLS??

We have heard a ton of love stories. Sometimes we wish that someday our love story would have the same twist or BETTER. There are the classic love stories, childhood sweethearts, enemies turned lovers, long distance romance, and the never dying Romeo & Juliet love affair. But as the time pass by, new love types of love stories appeared. One of these is what I call “cyber-love”. I call it cyber-love because they met in the mysterious place, the cyberspace

Joseph Walther gave a new theory to the communication world and that is Social Information Processing Theory (SIP). This theory talks about how one form of information that is being process by a receiver. Moreover, this information is not in verbal form. It’s more one text, just like in emails, SMS or computer mediated communication (CMC). This form of communication is, however, being discouraged despite the fact that it can be beneficial in some ways. Some communication scholars discouraged using CMCs in building relationships. They say that feelings and sincerity cannot be seen in CMCs because non-verbal communication plays an important role in showing how you feel. A person can send a message to his friends saying “I AM HAPPY!” but while writing this that person had prepared his gun right beside him. We can’t see the expressions of his face and his gestures. But Joseph Walther says that the non-verbal cues during a CMC situation does not affect the impact and the content the information has. He conducted an experiment about this, and concluded that face-to-face conversation has an equal amount of information acquired with computer mediated communication.

Time was also an issue with this theory. A 5-minute face-to-face conversation can go a long way. Your topics could have gone from Philippine Government to Animals to Life and to other things. But in CMC, these topics could be tackled within a week or so. Yet Walther defends his theory by saying, if the person send more messages in one time then they could talk more and gather more information. Also, the person can “savor” the information given to him and make use of his imagination to create an image. Then, this person will anticipate more in their future interactions and exchanging of ideas.

Walther also talked about the Hyperpersonal Perspective. This is more about the intimate relationship that started in CMC. He classifies four things that happens during a CMC; sender-receiver-channel-feedback. The sender can choose how to portray himself. He could act nice or naughty as he pleases. The receiver process all information given by the sender and looks for the similarities they have that they could possibly talk about in the future. Channel, however, is the time that is convenient to both parties to communicate. Lastly, the feedback could determine if the person would like anticipate for another conversation with that particular person. If the receiver’s expectations we met by the sender, there is a chance that they might build a relationship together.

I am not really against having cyber love, it’s just that one can fake who he is when facing the computer. But then again, I could never be too sure with that.

DEAR LOVE

I have this certain close friend who I will never forget. We were still in our first quarter in sixth grade when their family decided to go to Manila and stay there. Of course, as close pals we were sad that we won’t be hearing from each other in awhile (no cell phones, no YM, no FS. NO NOTHING). She gathered all her closest friends in their house before the day that they would be leaving. We talked, laughed and promised each other that nothing would change. Before we said our goodbyes, she started handing out letters. She gave me one too. There’s this line in from letter that she gave me that I’ll never forget. She said, “Life is an onion: we peel it off on layer at a time and sometimes we weep while doing this.”

Social Penetration Theory was formulated by Irwin Altman and Dalmas Taylor. The authors describe the personality of each person as a multilayered onion. Each layer has a different secret and story that is waiting to be peeled or penetrated. We don’t directly open up and share our stories to any person we meet in a street. We don’t go, “’Hi, I’m Iva! My parents just got divorced!” or “Hi! My favorite color is Magenta!” Opening up takes a lot of time and this theory somehow explains how each layer of our multilayered personality peels off and its process.

We tend to open our secrets or our life stories to those people who we are comfortable with. Those that we think that can do us no harm or those people whom we build a close relationship already. Every time this relationship goes deeper the more topics you’ve talked about and shared with each other. The authors of this theory gave an example, an onion and a wedge. The onion would represent us and the wedge would be the person you’re building a new relationship with. So each time this wedge goes deeper inside the onion, the more layers it has passed. Moreover, the wedge has pierced a large part already in the onion. In the same way, if we open up to one person, we allow them to go deeper and let them explore our lives. Every time we allow a person to know us more, we should be cautious to what we are divulging. Not all stories should be told.

This theory somehow helped me understand why I tell my friends certain things, but I don’t tell it to my other friends( even though I have a tight relationship to both of them). To tell you honestly, I am not a what-you-see-is-what-you-get. I my look like one, but I’m not. I may look a shallow pond, but I am a sea waiting to be explored.

This Christmas…

I asked Santa to give me a perfect little present. I asked him to kiss me in my cheek as he leaves our humble home. I also asked Santa for a bag with a house in it, and inside the house ,a boyfriend that awaits for my arrival. I believed in Santa for years and he has never let me down. But, this Christmas was different. WAY DIFFERENT. I was so excited to open my presents that morning. I can’t wait to see what Santa gave me. But as I search under our Christmas tree, I found nothing. NADA! I lost hope. ALL MY EXPECTATIONS WERE DOWN THE DRAIN. Santa has let me down. Char lang! XD

Judee Burgoon, a communication scholar, introduced the Expectancy Violations Theory. EVT is a theory that somehow explains how we react or respond to any message conveyed to us when our personal space is being invaded. She describes personal space as an "invisible, variable volume of space surrounding an individual that defines the individual’s preferred distance from others.” (EM Griffin, pg. 84). When this invisible boundary is violated, their expectancy can also be violated. If you cross the space of person, he can have two reactions—either positive or negative. This theory has three core concepts, namely; expectancy, violation violence and communicator reward valence. I shall explain these core concepts briefly.

Expectancy. From the word itself, we have a picture of something that should be followed or like rules. We expect different things from others or from the one we are communicating with. Then these expectations can affect our response. In example, during a Christmas party, you met a new friend. Now this person is so near your face that you could actually see his pores. I bet you would feel invaded or very uncomfortable. But if the person you were talking to was your boyfriend or someone special, you would not mind if he is too near, or you might even like it.

Violation Valence. I bet we all heard the word valence. We encountered this word in our Chemistry classes. But Judee Burgoon gives it a little twist. Violation valence is the summation of all the violation that a person does to you during your communication. Going back to my example, the first person violated your space and some other personal things. so overall, this person has created a bad impression to you and you don’t like to keep in touch with him and just forget the awful conversation you had. But if your boyfriend or special someone did some violations during your conversations, you might even look at it as a positive thing and you might mind. You’d look forward in meeting again and catching things up.

Communicator Reward Valence. This last core concept talks about the benefit that the communicator gets after the conversation and its impact on their future meetings and talks.

Like all of us, this theory though has its flaws but the author tries to improve it. That’s why it still a theory.

So that’s about it! That’s how I understood EVT.